Choosing the Perfect Ring and Keeping It a Secret

Choosing an engagement ring can be daunting. It’s an investment as well as a symbol of your commitment and love. We’ve got some ways for you to choose the perfect ring for her while keeping the proposal a secret.

#1: Pay attention to her taste and style

Keeping an eye on your fiancée-to-be’s style can be key to picking out the ring of her dreams. This includes her clothes, jewelry, accessories, and even her taste in art and design.

-She has a simple or classic fashion sense. Does she prefer a clean, sophisticated, polished look?  She would probably love a solitaire engagement ring- which would highlight the minimal, classic style she loves.

-She always stays up-to-date with fashion trends. She loves being in the know with current trends and pays attention to fashion shows, celebrity outfits, and blogger trending styles. Take a look at popular celebrity ring styles or ask your jeweler what styles are hot right now.

-She gravitates towards vintage and antique fashion and design. This likely means she would love a ring that is a vintage inspired setting, or a an actual vintage/antique setting.

-She has a very active lifestyle. Does she work with her hands for her job or hobbies? You’re going to want to look for a lower profile ring- choose a low-set diamond versus a cathedral or high prong set diamond. There will be less of a chance that the ring will snag, lose diamonds, or have damaged prongs.

-She is sentimental and cherishes family history and heirlooms. Ask your family or hers if there is a diamond or gemstone you could incorporate into the design of her ring.

#2: Get her friends and family involved

Ask the ladies in her life! Her mom, sisters, aunts, cousins, or friends are great resources to reach out to. She may have told them about what she would want, or what styles she likes. If they haven’t talked about it with her, you can have them casually bring it up with her in conversation. It makes it less suspicious if you’re trying to keep it a secret. It can even be a good idea to bring her mom or one of her friends to shop with you- but be prepared with a reason you have to spend extra time with her friends or family.

#3: Look at her Pinterest

If she has a Pinterest, take a look at the things she’s saved. Potentially she’s even saved examples of exact engagement ring styles she likes or is interested in. If she hasn’t saved anything engagement ring or wedding specific, she’s maybe saved other images that will cue you into the style she likes. Go to Pinterest and type her name into the search engine at the top- this will bring up user profiles and you can take a peek at her saved boards.

#4: Study her other day-to-day jewelry

What does she normally wear? Does she have more yellow, white, or rose gold? Does she gravitate towards small dainty pieces or does she like bold stand-out designs? Does she like classic pearls and diamonds or does she like colored gemstones? What pieces does she wear more often versus what stays in her jewelry box? The answers to these questions can help you figure out what key elements to nail down when picking out the perfect ring.

#5: Browse together

Obviously, this is going to clue her into the fact that you might propose soon. However, you could say that you’re looking for a gift for someone else, like your mother, and pay attention to what she’s drawn to. You could also tell her you’re thinking of buying her new earrings or a bracelet- and you could find out her preferences on gold type or stones.

#6: Buy a Placeholder

One option is to buy a simple solitaire ring, propose with it, then go back in and design the real engagement ring with your fiancée. This method keeps it a surprise, but also allows her to be a part of the design process.

#7: Ask her

If you want the most fool-proof method of finding what ring she wants and you feel that a surprise engagement ring is not her style, then be direct and ask her what she would want! She’s going to be the one wearing the ring for the rest of her life, so ask her about some of the specs she would like. Follow her lead, but from there the rest of the design can be yours.

#8: Ask your jeweler

It’s best to come in with a clue as to what she’ll want but if you need a lot of guidance or just need to learn about jewelry in general, it doesn’t hurt to just make an appointment and ask questions. Just come in with your budget in mind, be prepared to talk about your future fiancée and let the experts help you!

At Mark’s Diamonds, we have 35 years of experience in fine jewelry and helping people select the perfect engagement ring. We are happy to help guide you through the process and be a part of your journey as a couple. Book your appointment with us today.

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